By Liam Jones 
Not sure what to say when a coworker gets laid off? Yeah, it’s awkward. It’s tough for them—and honestly, it can feel weird for you too. But saying something kind can really make a difference.
Losing a job isn’t just about the paycheck—it can shake someone’s sense of identity, security, and belonging.
“Layoffs often feel like we’re being cut off—from work, from our teammates, from our routine,” says Dawid Wiącek, a career and communication coach. “We spend a huge chunk of our lives with coworkers, even virtually.”
That’s why reaching out—even with a quick message—is a big deal. You don’t have to be besties. Just letting them know you care can mean a lot. Especially now, when layoffs are extra stressful—thanks to AI, the economy, and all the uncertainty out there—acknowledging someone’s situation matters more than ever.
When you check in, you help them feel seen and supported. In this article, we’ll break down what you can say to a coworker who’s been laid off—so you’re not just thoughtful, but truly helpful.
The Dos and Don’ts of Talking to a Laid-Off Coworker
Sending a message might feel awkward, but if you speak from the heart, it really helps. You don’t have to say something perfect—just something human.
What to Do:
Reach out directly. A private message always feels more personal than a quick group chat or Slack blast.
Be specific if you offer help. Instead of the vague “Let me know if I can help,” try: “I can connect you with a friend in your field” or “Want me to write you a LinkedIn recommendation?”
Acknowledge what they’re feeling. Even just saying, “This really sucks—I’m sorry this happened,” can feel way more supportive than forcing optimism.
Leave the door open. Not sure what to say? Wiącek suggests something like: “I’ve been thinking of you. You don’t need to reply, but I’m here if you want to talk.” That gives space while showing you care.
What Not to Do:
Skip the cheesy clichés. Saying “Everything happens for a reason” or “You’ll bounce back fast” might feel dismissive, even if you mean well.
Don’t compare. Avoid stuff like, “My friend got laid off and now she’s thriving!” It might come off like you’re brushing off their struggle.
Don’t make it about you. If you still have your job, it’s normal to feel weird—but don’t let your message become a therapy session about your survivor’s guilt.
Don’t assume how they feel. Wiącek points out that not everyone is crushed—some people feel relieved. So don’t say things like, “You must be devastated.” Let them define their own experience.
How (and When) to Reach Out
A kind message can bring real comfort—but how and when you say it matters, too.
Choose the right channel. Text, email, or LinkedIn DMs are usually your best bets. Avoid company email or Slack—there’s a chance they’ve already lost access.
Keep it short and kind. If you weren’t super close, a simple message still matters. Wiącek says many folks feel overwhelmed right after a layoff, so just a few kind words—even pointing out something they did well—can help.
Give them space. Some people want to job-hunt right away. Others might need a moment to process. Silence, distraction, even withdrawal—it’s all normal. “Layoff blues are real,” Wiącek reminds us. So go gently.
Offer more later. If you were close or if they seem like they’re struggling, consider following up. Maybe share job leads, offer to review their resume, or just invite them for a snack or a walk. As Wiącek puts it: “Support doesn’t always have to be professional. Sometimes, just being there as a friend means everything.”
Message Templates: What to Say (Without Overthinking It)
It’s totally normal to feel stuck on what to say. You don’t want to overstep or say the wrong thing—but silence can feel just as bad. So here are a few real-life-style examples you can tweak, depending on your relationship.
Example #1: Warm and Personal — For a Close Coworker
Hey, I just heard the news, and I’m honestly really sad about it. Working with you has been one of the best parts of being here. You’ve not only been an amazing teammate but a great friend, too. I’ve learned so much from you, and I’m going to seriously miss our daily chats and laughs. Please know I’m here for whatever you need—resume feedback, intros, or just grabbing coffee and venting. I know this sucks, but I also know something awesome is waiting for you next.
Example #2: Professional but Kind — For Someone You Know Less Well
Hi, I was sorry to hear about the layoffs. I really enjoyed working with you and appreciated everything you brought to the team. I hope you land somewhere great soon. Let me know if I can help in any way—happy to recommend you or connect you with folks in my network.
Example #3: Grateful and Sincere — When They Helped You Personally
Just wanted to say I’m really sorry about the news. I’ve been meaning to thank you—working with you taught me so much, and you made a huge impact on my time here. I really hope we can keep in touch. Any company would be lucky to have you.